A Fear And Phobia Of What Might Happen In The Future
In this article I am going to explain about how I have managed to turn my life around from one which was constantly living in fear, to one where I now look forward to the future. You never know it may well prove to be an inspiration to some of it’s readers; I certainly hope so.
I was always the type of person who would be constantly worrying about many different aspects of life and who was seemingly always stressed. It could be about business; I am involved in DVD replication, offering stammering treatments and I also help people who offer online guitar lessons for beginners. I could not find a way to break through from this vicious cycle and at many a time I wondered whether it was worth living at all. I have to admit that on many occasions I have gone to bed hoping that I would die in my sleep and therefore would not wake up.
I am virtually sure that I am not the only one who lives life in this way. What I decided to do was to try to work out what exactly was causing my anxiety and stress.
It was about being honest with myself. There have been many a night where I have been unable to get to sleep all night, basically I had too many worries circling through my mind. This meant that I could not relax and therefore could not sleep.
By thinking clearly, I realised that I had a fear of the future. I am someone who talks to myself quite a lot, a bit strange I know. I would often be asking myself a number of questions:
What will happen if I lose my job?
How will I cope if my girlfriend leaves me?
I have been invited to one of best friends wedding on Saturday. I do not really want to go just in case people think that I am an idiot or in case I do something stupid?
I am due to travel to Spain in a couple of months time; what if something goes wrong on the flight etc?
How am I going to afford to buy my first house?
How will I cope when my parents die?
These are just a few of many questions that I used to ask myself.
There was only one thing for it – I needed to talk through the problems and anxieties with my mother and father. They gave me some superb advice. These people said that stressing about a situation does not help one little bit – I needed to occupy my time more so that I would not have so much to stress. I basically had to try my best every day and that is all anybody could expect from me. They told me to think in a more positive way and to concentrate on all of the good things that I had in my life. There will no doubt be challenges ahead but you need to deal with them when they arise.
I have taken on board there advice even though it has not been easy. My life is now so much better and when a fear comes into my head I just bat it away.